Sunday, September 25, 2016

It's Okay To Be 20-Something And Not Have It All Together

Your twenties are for learning, experiencing, and dreaming. There will be people that tell you otherwise. There will be those who judge you because your car mirrors are holding on by the power of duck tape, because you still reside in a one bedroom apartment or even your parent's house, or because you've eaten ramen noodles every night this week because you haven't figured out how to manage your $300 weekly paycheck. I wanted to write this post to remind you and everyone around you, that you are still 20-something, you don't have to have it all figured out.

This post isn't just aimed for those of you who are single, 20, and enjoying Friday and Saturday nights blowing your rent money on $2 shots. This post also goes for parents and married couples in their 20s. Having a wife, or husband and/or kids doesn't automatically make you an expert on life and it definitely doesn't mean you have it all together. You're just lucky enough to have a family to figure it out with. Although people expect you to have it all together, most 20-somethings don't. You have to remember to laugh off the time you "accidentally" cursed in front of your baby, forget the times the neighbors heard you yelling back and forth with your spouse because you're still trying to learn how to resolve issues without screaming, and most certainly ignore the eye rolls and judgemental faces of those who think they know it all. Because nobody does. 

There isn't a day that goes by where I don't scroll through my Facebook newsfeed. I am so happy to see where my friends are, what they're doing, and how they're doing. I'll be the first one to toast to their success and pep talk them through their failures. However, that doesn't mean that I don't compare where I'm at in life to where they are. You have to remember that we are all on our own path and you're still 20-something. You have plenty of time to figure shit out and get your life in order. STOP COMPARING. Celebrate your small achievements. 

People are always going to have something to say about your choices and actions. Most of the time it is people much older than twenty who have forgotten what it's like to go through life with very few lessons learned. And I'm not talking about the people who generally try to give you advice, I'm talking about the ones who go around talking about you constantly. Here is a little secret; people never stop talking so make yourself happy and don't grow up too fast. Your twenties are meant for mistakes, embrace them.

It's okay to be 20-somthing and not have it all together. I know the pressure can be overwhelming, trust me, but you got this. Enjoy learning, traveling, experiencing firsts, and all-nighters. Suffer through the ramen noodle nights, and enjoy the beat up Honda Accord, I'm sure she has lots of memories. One day you'll buy your dream house, roll your kids up to school in a GL SUV, and go to the store without whispering "we can't afford it" to your husband when he tries to sneak extra unnecessary items like chocolate milk into the cart. Life will get easier, you'll see!  


I know that there will never be a point in life when you will have it totally together. Your twenties are just the time when everyone puts so much pressure for you to get it together. If you're 35, still going through the motions, that's okay too! I'll write that post when I get to my 30s.

How are you or how did you deal with the pressure of your twenties to get it together?

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