The Weight of Your Words
Gracious words are a honeycomb, sweet to the soul and healing to the bones. Proverbs 16:24 NIV
I hate to admit that I have not always been so careful with my words.
I remember a time when I had a conversation with an amazing lady who ended up being a causality of words I had spoken, and I needed to fix it and remind myself that I need to be careful with the words I choose and say.
You see our words hold so much weight- and what I mean by that is that ‘…sticks and stones may break our bones and words WILL hurt us.’
I feel that God has given me this gift to be a writer and speaker and with that comes much responsibility- which means I need to really watch what I say.
They say that your strengths can also be your weakness and that is VERY true. As much as I say things to build people up with the gift of knowledge and confidence God has given me, there is also the possibility that those gifts hurt other people, which hopefully are always unintentional.
In the words of Margaret Josephs (for all you Real Housewives of New Jersey fans) “…I would never want to take a girl down and make her cry.” Yes I know, I cannot help my love for the show!
God is so faithful to remind us of ways to help us through our weaknesses. I have had to ask God to help me put ‘a watch’ over my mouth, and help me to speak things in love and most importantly in truth.
“Set a guard over my mouth, O Lord; keep watch over the door of my lips.” Psalm 141:3 NRSV
It is so easy to exaggerate, assume or make up sides to stories that we do not have all the facts for, and it is easy to speak in confidence over situations where we have no responsibility or confidence to actually speak in to.
I have had to have some conversations with people where I have had to say I only want the facts… because it is so easy to run with exaggerations and get heated with false truths.
Guys this is a challenge for me, because with the gift of speaking, I like to talk, lol. It is as simple as that and I have to understand that my words hold a weight to those who hear what I say.
I need to be careful to speak life and not death over people and my situations with my words.
“Death and life are in the power of the tongue, and those who love it will eat its fruits.” Proverbs 18:21 NRSV
Not only do our words have the capability to impact others, our words also speak to our future.
Recently God has been putting on my heart that I need to be speaking my faith out loud and declaring God's word over my life.
Now I have only got one mouth, and one voice… and with that voice I speak faith over my life, but it is also used to speak life into others.
It is amazing to think something as small as our mouth can cause so many issues if we are not careful.
My heart is to always try my best to think before I speak and understand that a simple comment can ruin or make someone’s day and alter my future.
So please beautiful friends let us aim for truth- let us aim to speak in love and speak faith over our lives… because I have learned you do not know who is listening and can be affected by your words.
But most importantly God is always listening, so let us act in ways that others will know Him through us.
Your words matter more than you will ever know.
Biblical truths to help us with our words:
“For ‘Those who desire life and desire to see good days, let them keep their tongues from evil and their lips from speaking deceit’” 1 Peter 3:10 NRSV
“Let your speech always be gracious, seasoned with salt, so that you may know how you ought to answer everyone.” Colossians 4:6 NRSV
“Let no evil talk come out of your mouths, but only what is useful for building up, as there is need, so that your words may give grace to those who hear.” Ephesians 4:29 NRSV
“A gentle tongue is a tree of life, but perverseness in it breaks the spirit.” Proverbs 15:4 NRSV
“It is not what goes into the mouth that defiles a person, but it is what comes out of the mouth that defiles.” Matthew 15:11 NRSV
“To watch over mouth and tongue is to keep out of trouble.” Proverbs 21:23 NRSV
“Keep your tongue from evil, and your lips from speaking deceit.” Psalm 34:13 NRSV
“Rash words are like sword thrusts, but the tongue of the wise brings healing.” Proverbs 12:18 NRSV
“A soft answer turns away wrath, but a harsh word stirs up anger.” Proverbs 15:1 NRSV